We often think our fate is shaped by our goals, grit, or even our to-do list. But more often, it’s shaped by something far more immediate—our nervous system state.

I use a simple model to explain this: the traffic light.

🟢 Green = steady, grounded, calm, clear, connected.

🟡 Yellow = stress mode—tense, reactive, impatient.

🔴 Red = shut down—numb, overwhelmed, checked out.

And here’s the key:
Your state shapes your story. It filters what you notice, how you interpret things, and what options you think are available.